If You Love Someone, Say It

Photo by Jessica Hedberg 2008. From My husband and I's wedding ceremony.


" If you love someone, say it...otherwise the moment just passes you by"
-My Best Friend's Wedding

That is one of my favorite quotes about love. I was having a conversation with a friend about love and marriage and it made me want to write about my views on it all. Now, call me old fashioned all you want but I really believe in my heart marriage is forever. Divorces are not supposed to happen and I get that they are necessary sometimes but for me...I chose to love my husband forever and I will do just that until the day I die. NOTHING can change that. People make mistakes all the time and when you're married you are supposed to give a chance to your spouse to fix whatever mistake they made and move on. Marriage is all about three things; commitment, trust, & compromise. You COMMIT to love each other and to be honest. You TRUST that the other person has your best interests in mind and will always be there for you, for better or for worse. And you COMPROMISE to make things fair between you two-it's all about give and take. I am certain that those three things are the foundations for a strong and happy marriage. Marriage is not easy by any means. It's something you have to work at, each and every day. All that works pays off at the end of the day when you have the person you love laying next to you in bed with their arms wrapped around you. My husband and I have to work extra hard at our marriage because we only knew each other a very short time before marrying and were both very young but this September I'm proud to say we will be celebrating our two year anniversary. Sadly, he will still be deployed but hopefully he will be back soon after. I love my husband more than anything in the world and even though we are very different I do in my heart believe we are ment to be together and I look forward to the many more years we will share together.

Laughs, Lessons, & a shot of Tequila

Tomorrow is my husband's birthday. Originally I had planned a surprise party for him. St patrick's day themed of course! Complete with green beer : ) Knowing my husband and the socialite he is he also planned himself a party...which happened to spoil my surprise. So tomorrow night we will be partying like it's 1999. Now let me give you a little background info on my husband. When we met he was the stereotypical party boy. He would start drinking and be fully clothed but by the end of the night he would be in a thong, cowboy boots, and a sombrero...attractive, huh? And if you don't believe me I have the pictures to prove it!! I, on the other hand was a casual, social drinker. Sure, I was partier for my whopping one semester of college but after that it would just be small get togethers with close friends. I think that is what drew me to my now husband. He was so different from me and so confident and outgoing but me on the other hand had lost a lot of my confidence. I used to be a social butterfly but in years and through hard times I had lost some of that. Being with him made me feel alive and he really defined the idea of living life to the fullest. To this day after almost two years of marriage we are still very very different. It's a good thing I continue to reassure myself but days like today...it drives me nuts. In marriage you are supposed to compromise and you are supposed to love the other person for all that are. This includes their flaws and everything that is different from you. This is a daily struggle for us. But the power of love is amazing because when it's real even in the midst of a big fight you still are head over heels for that special someone. Every time my husband and I get into a fight I learn so much about myself. I'm not sure why this is but it sure is a good thing. I am NOT perfect and nor is he. Now it's time to accept that. Tough stuff.

I have to say I sure am looking forward to this party and to the many shots of tequila I intend on taking! So drink it down, baby and put a smile on your face! Life is so short, enjoy it!!