Oh, the joys of facebook....a place where people flaunt their whole lives for others to see. I am a frequent facebook user on my personal account and enjoy reading updates from friends and family. I feel like I've been seeing a lot of sadness on facebook lately. Whether it be a lady who hasn't seen her boyfriend all day(gasp!) or someone whose spouse is deployed. I totally get how lonely these times are and how sad it can be.
BUT I must be in the minority...I'm not sad. I don't spend my nights crying into a glass of wine. My heart is not aching. I don't feel like I'm going to lose control at any moment. I'm not a basketcase.
OF COURSE, I miss my husband. BUT I am tough. I am strong. I am independent. I am making the best of the situation I've been dealt. Isn't that what you have to do?
I don't want to cry for 4 months. I want to make memories and have fun with my kids! So that is what we are doing. We are having movies nights with popcorn and hot cocoa. We are feeding giraffes at the zoo. We are going to the beach and building sandcastles. We are seeing drive inn movies. We are enjoying life and making a hard time into a great time!!
The way I look at it is that this is four months of just my kids and I. Four months of me bonding with them 24/7(except when I'm at work). And I'm LOVING it. My kids and I have gotten so much closer....and THAT is a positive. Our family does not feel complete but we are bonding and making memories the best way we know how. And there are no tears here...but there will be tears of joy in two months:)
Deployment can bring out the best or worst in each person, but we have a lot of control over what it will be for us! Glad to hear you are finding the silver linings and making the most of your time with your children!!
ReplyDeleteDeployments are never easy. Mine is set to leave soon. I've dealt with it before but there are always tough days.
ReplyDeleteMiss you darling and your blog writings! Hope we can talk again soon! Phone date?
ReplyDeleteHi, I'm Janelle, and I found your blog while searching for Air Force wife blogs! I am marrying my Airman next year, and I am trying to learn all that I can now. :) I just wanted to say that I really admire your courage about this deployment. It may even be over with by now, as this was posted over four months ago... but I really think you have a WONDERFUL attitude about it, and I hope I can be as brave, strong, and courageous one day! Consider me your newest follower! :)
ReplyDeleteJanelle ( http://janelle-and-dan.blogspot.com/ )