I live in a state that is an 18 hour drive from where I grew up. My closest family is a ten hour drive away. And my in laws are a 14 hour drive away. I left behind some amazing people when I followed my military husband to our first duty station. I left behind my favorite Chinese buffet, my high school football alumni night, a movie threater where I always got free tickets, and most of all I left behind my comfort zone. At the young age of 20 I started my new life with a newborn baby and new husband in a town I had never even visited. A huge part of military life is uprooting everything you know only to relocate to a foreign town where you're forced to start over.
When I first arrived here I gave birth and spent many months alone taking care of my baby girl. Eventually I decided to join the spouses group on base. I watch the show Army Wives as I'm sure you all know and expected the spouses group to be just like that. With all of the support and loving friends...it didn't seem real though. I'm not one to push to fit in somewhere. I refuse to change who I am just to conform and get people to like me. Well let's just say the spouses group didn't work out. Too much gossip and drama for me. So I looked to find friends in other ways, through work(I worked at a restaurant and a retail store at one point in time) or through my hubby's co worker's spouses..but needless to say two years later I only have about 3 people here I'd say are good friends and even then I don't see any of them all that often. It's been a lonely two years to say the least. I feel like I'm in a weird inbetween spot. I'm young(22) but have a child and one on the way while most people my age are in college having fun. And then most of those in my same situation are much older which I don't mind but people tend to judge me for my age rather than my maturity level. I truly miss my hometown and I know my hubby misses his as well.I hope and pray we make some good friends soon and maybe find a good babysitter so hubby and I can finally go on a date...it's been way too long.
This holiday season we will be staying home instead of traveling to see family like we did last year. I'm looking forward to decorating my house and starting our own traditions but it will be lonely just the three of us. Not as much fun having thanksgiving dinner without a big family surrounding you or unwrapping presents on Christmas by ourselves. If I were rich I would fly all our family here and put them all up in hotels for the holidays. Here's to a lonely, but hopefully joyful holiday season!
Military Spouses(or personnel)- how do you cope with the constant moving? What are your best ways for making friends and feeling comfortable in a new place?
Everyone else-what are your plans for the holidays? What traditions do you have?